Hobson said if they start acting like a victim and only feel as though other people can solve their problems, then they are freeloading. If a friend or relative uses your money to buy things that they want but don't need, they definitely crossed the line into freeloading, Hobson said.Īnother way to spot a freeloader is to see if they seem to have stopped helping themselves.
He or she buys luxuries instead of necessities. Someone who is truly in need will ask for help once or twice as a last resort and then figure out a way to make ends meet, she said. "It's very, very difficult, but you need to say no." "When you're dealing with someone where it's a repeat situation…you've got to say no," Hobson said. If the same person is constantly coming back for money, or in Campbell's case relying on her sister for six years, Hobson said they are freeloading. To find out more about Classic Annie's Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit Creators Syndicate at or she repeatedly comes back for money. This Classic Annie's Mailbox column was originally published in 2012. I am so blessed to be with a man who gets that. There is no void when you love deeply and can accept the changes that growing old together brings. We hug and kiss and appreciate each other. Why can't we just grow old? If all we did was dwell on our sex life, we would be constantly upset. And my husband would have his own problems if not for that little blue pill. I was willing to try, but hormones also brought back my uterine fibroids, and I'd rather not have a hysterectomy if I don't have to. Taking hormones brings back cramps and menstruation. The aging process has meant that sex is no longer pleasurable. Well, knowing I cannot make love to my husband is pretty devastating, too.
So, yes, we agree it would have been better to use the credit when you were alone, unless he intended to use it to treat his friends to part of their meal.ĭear Annie: "Feeling the Void" says women don't understand how sex makes a man feel loved and that men feel incomplete without it. However, a less familiar set of friends might have found it a bit gauche for your husband to flaunt that his bill was going to be $40 less than theirs. What do you think? - Embarrassedĭear Embarrassed: If the other couple were close friends or family members, they may not have cared about this. I felt he should have saved his credit for a time when we were dining alone. When the bill arrived, my husband took out his card and told the other couple they owed half of the bill, including the tip, and that he would apply his $40 credit to the remainder. We recently went to this restaurant with another couple. Over time, he accumulated a credit of $40. Be nice about it, but don't back down.ĭear Annie: My husband has a frequent customer card for a local restaurant. Let them know that if they don't find a place within three months, you will start charging them rent - and make it enough so that moving out is an attractive option. Offer to take care of your granddaughter. Tell them you think it would be healthier for all concerned if they found a place of their own, and you will give them three months to move out. If your son-in-law or daughter is working, they should be paying rent, if not in their own place, then in yours. Losing Hopeĭear Losing: In order to have your house to yourself, you will need to find the strength to put a time limit on the freeloading. How do I get them out without hurting my daughter and granddaughter? I don't want to lie to them, but I'm beginning to despise my son-in-law. And he does not help us around the house or contribute to the bills. My son-in-law doesn't even pretend to make an effort to find a place anymore. I try to be kind, but I am still grieving the loss of my son to cancer. My husband is ill, and he is extremely uncomfortable having no privacy and being limited to our bedroom for days at a time. Five years ago, they came here intending to stay "a few months." Dear Annie: I don't know how much longer I can handle my daughter and her family living in our home.
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